"In Passing"
If a PIP is walking past you, you must think quickly. You must deliver
a powerful enough, instant, high-impact eye contact to warrant him coming back for more.
A deliberate and direct "pupil to pupil" contact is necessary!
If you can think fast enough, say "Hi" and/or "How are you?"
Either way you absolutely must SMILE!
This step is VERY IMPORTANT!!
If you are able to deliver a direct enough hit, the PIP may come up with
some excuse to come back and start a conversation with you.
Again, allow him to catch you looking back at him.
If he's not looking back, keep watching him so that if he does look back at you,
he will see you looking at him. If and when he does look back at you, show that
you are happy with a huge, kind of shy, smile. This is the only way he will be able
to get up the nerve to come back and talk to you. It is also a good idea to try to
find a reason of your own to pass him again.
This method can be challenging. Even if you think fast enough and get up the nerve,
it may not work, though often enough it does.
My clients and I have shared many success stories about using this method.
Think of it this way. If you try and fail, you have lost nothing.
If you don't try, you will almost definitely lose the opportunity to meet the guy.
We must be very direct in this situation because it takes an incredible amount of
nerve for the guy to do his part. Therefore, we must really do our part.
"Conversational"
When you have the opportunity to "conversate" with a PIP, use it to your FULL advantage.
You may not get a second chance. The trick is, when you look at him,
look him straight in the eye.
Make an even stronger impact by focusing directly on his pupils.
You are almost searching for the inner anatomy of his eyeball as you speak and listen.
You must hold this contact for a little bit longer than is comfortable in order to get
the desired result. Finally, you must let go of his optic nerve.
You may notice him trying to get your "tractor beam" back onto him.
This is a very good sign that he is interested.
For the man on the receiving end of this communication, it is a clear sign of
interest in him not just as a date - but as an individual.
You are giving him all of
your attention. He is highly complimented and feels deeply respected. If a guy is
interested in you, this will go a long way in empowering him to ask you out...
Incidentally, by looking this closely at people, you also get a great read on exactly
who they really are. Many times they will reveal to you things about themselves that
they ordinarily would not. They will say, " I don't know why I am telling you all of this.
I usually don't tell such details about my life to a virtual stranger."
If a man cannot return your gaze, it may be a sign that he is hiding something.
It could also be extreme shyness or intimidation, but when shyness or intimidation
is the problem, he will usually try to reconnect with you once you look away.
Many of the women I have taught this method to have agreed with me.
"It's almost as though I can read his mind and see through any facade when I
look at a person this closely."
By using this method, I have found that I can get a sense of a person's nature.
Sometimes I see kindness or power. Occasionally, I have gotten
a very bad vibe or gut instinct. The times I have ignored that feeling, I was sorry.
It's important that you use this technique not only as a way of impacting a PIP,
but as a way to start figuring out if this person is right for you.
Excerpt from:
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Master Dating : How to Meet & Attract Quality Men
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by Felicia Rose Adler. |
