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Relationship Advice from Dr. TRuth |
Dear Dr. TRuth,
I have a problem.
I've been going with
this guy for 3 months now.
I love him a whole lot and he loves me too.
He told me so and I trust and believe what he says.
The thing is, he
thinks I'm cheating on him
and I'm not.
He won't believe me though. Every time
I talk to him he thinks I
was just on the phone with some other guy.
I don't
know what to do anymore.
He's getting me really frustrated.
I love him with
all my heart.
I'm eighteen
and he's twenty.
Please give me some advice soon.
THANK YOU.
Frustrated
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Dear Frustrated,
Jealousy is a disease that drives men crazy: think of
Othello (you should have read this in high school!)
Your boyfriend's jealousy is not based on anything
that you've done but his own insecurity and low
self-esteem.
Who knows! Someone could have cheated and
lied in his past but that has nothing whatever to do
with you and he needs to know this!
When he accuses
you, be sympathetic and tell him that you know he's
jealous but tell him also that all good relationships
are based on trust and that you hope he learns to
trust you soon because you are absolutely honest.
Tell
him you will help him to get over this illness he has
and that you hope that just by being together, he will
learn to feel safe and secure with you.
Treat this as
his issue. Do not take it personally and let him know
that.
Hopefully, he will be able to recover, with your
love, from whatever has made him feel so insecure
that he doubts someone who obviously cares so much for
him!
Sincerely,
Dr. TRuth
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